About ten years ago, I realized I needed to quit qualifying my excellent husband who is a better man than many Mormon men I knowI realized I needed to raise my kids to think of him as completely equal to the men they knew at church. I trust him and I highly doubt he's getting "it" from someone else. While I miss talking to him, I also would prefer the nonverbal stuff sometimes too. If you are dating a Mormon girl, then always wear a good shirt, jeans or pants, and avoid T-shirts with offensive wording or graphics. It's alot to understand if not raised and taught in it specifically.
Religious differences, however are real. I'm on the same page as you. Marriage is serious business and we are in it together despite our spouses shortcomings. Should one belief system or lack of one take priority and why. It might be just a few seconds, depending, but evidence that he's thinking of you. She needs to be, and maybe she will get there. We are not judged only for what we do but why we do it. On his days off he sleeps all day long.